Life Defining Moments - As You Wish Princess Bride

In everyone's life, there are defining moments. Those are the moments where you make a pivotal decision that forever changed your life. For me, one of the defining events of my life was kayaking the Grand Canyon. But the defining moment came on the second day when I was sitting on the side of the river in my kayak, scared to death, and I made a decision to paddle back out into the current. Because if I hadn't paddled back out at that point, I knew that I would not continue down the Grand Canyon. 

As you wish. 

This week I'm gonna give you three tips on how to take action in your defining moments. Make sure you stick around to the end, because this week is the 30th anniversary of Princess Bride, so I'm gonna have a bonus tip that is inspired by the movie The Princess Bride. 

Inconceivable!

You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means. 

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True, but that's hardly common knowledge, is it? Thank you. 

Tip number one is to imagine it. So, you want to actually see yourself completing each of the steps in the task you're trying to do. And you want to see yourself successfully accomplishing that thing. In your mind, you want to picture exactly what it's like to have that positive outcome that you're after. 

Woo hoo hoo, look who knows so much, huh. 

Tip number two is to feel it. It's not enough just to imagine a positive outcome, you have to actually feel what it's like to achieve that positive outcome. For me, what I'll do is I'll sit there and I'll imagine it in my mind with my eyes closed until I feel that big grin on my face then I know I'm in that moment and I have achieved my goal. 

Truly, you have a dizzying intellect. 

Wait till I get going. 

Tip number three is to define it. In the movie Tin Cup, Kevin Costner's character says, "When a defining moment comes along, you define the moment or the moment defines you." This is your moment, so you have to make the decision, take action, and define that moment and get the outcome you want. 

Bye-bye boys. 

Have fun storming the castle.

Think it'll work? 

It would take a miracle. 

This week's bonus is to have fun. Life is short but sweet, so you might as well cherish every moment. If you're facing impossible odds, you might as well have fun, face them with a big smile on your face, and go out there and define your life. 

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The Pareto Principle - How to Improve Productivity

Do you ever feel like you're just always busy, and you just don't have enough time to get everything done? Well this week I'm gonna give you three tips to help you be more productive, and make sure you stick around the end for a special bonus tip.

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Tip number one is to identify the task. So the way I like to do this is to get a pad of sticky notes, and I just write down everything I can think of. So I think about what I do daily, what I do weekly, and what I do monthly, and I just write it all down, take a good 5 or 10 minutes to just write everything you can possibly think of.

Tip number two is to prioritize the task. So the way I like to do this is to take a piece of paper, or a whiteboard, or whatever you have available, and split it up into four quadrants. And as you go up higher it's gonna be a higher impact, and as you go across it's gonna be a higher ease, and you're gonna take all those sticky notes and you're gonna put them in those four quadrants on that chart. And then you're gonna identify the things that are really highly impactful that you can do.

So, if you've ever heard of the Pareto principle, well, this kind of goes with that, or the 80/20 rule. So basically, what that says is that 20% of the things you're doing are gonna have 80% of your productivity. So as you start to put these things in your chart, you'll see those things up top, with the high impact, are gonna be more of the things that fall in that 20% that are getting you 80% of your results. So that's where you'll wanna focus your time and effort.

Tip number three is to apply the four Ds. All right, so the four Ds are: to do it, to delegate it, to defer it, or delete it. So those things that are in the first quadrant, the high impact, high ease, go ahead and just knock those things out. They're easy for you, they're gonna have a big impact; those are the things you wanna do, whether it'd be doing them daily, weekly, monthly, whatever it is, that's where you're gonna focus your time, that's where you're gonna get your 20% that are giving you 80% of the results.

All right, those things that are high impact, low ease, now you really have to think about those. Is it in your strength and passion to do those things? If not, you probably don't wanna waste your time, so go ahead and delegate those. And that means, whether we're finding somebody else to do it, or paying somebody else to do it, whatever you have to do, because your time is worth more than that, so don't waste your time there, get somebody else to do it.

Now, those other two quadrants, the ones that are low impact, that's where deferring and deleting come in. So just either put it off for later, or just totally get it out of your mind and get rid of it off your list. Don't do it anymore, it's a waste of your time.

This week's bonus is clarity, because when you really know what you want, it's easy to decide what you need to say yes to, and what you need to say no to.

And I have a simple question I use for that, and I just ask, "Is this moving me closer to my goal?" If that answer is no, then that's not something I need to be doing.

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Hack Freedom - The Matrix Red or Blue Pill

Put on your sunglasses, because this week we're plugging into the Matrix. I will be giving you five tips on how to hack your freedom and be the one. So buckle your seatbelt, Dorothy, because Kansas is going bye-bye.

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Tip number one is take the pill. One of the most famous scenes in the Matrix is where Morpheus offers Neo the choice of the blue pill or the red pill. 

You take the red pill you stay in wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit goes.

And of course he chooses the red pill, and he goes further down the rabbit hole. Well, the red pill is really about freedom, and that's kind of the underlying theme of this whole movie. Is that you have freedom of choice, and your fate is not set. When you have opportunities presented to you make sure you choose freedom. Choose that opportunity, and go after it, because like Agent Smith says, there are billions of people in this world living completely oblivious, and they're oblivious to all the opportunities that surround them, and their opportunities to seize their freedom.

Tip number two is to load the software. Just like Neo needed to learn things in the Matrix, there are things you need to learn as well. Just like Neo, you can load the software. So you need to figure out where you're at, and where you want to be, and what you need to learn to get there. So whether it be to advance your career, or get the next promotion, or to start a business, or to take your business to the next level. Whatever it is the knowledge is out there, you just have to load the programs and learn it. 

Tip number three is fight the agents. Morpheus tells Neo that everyone is part of the system, and they want to protect the system, and anyone can be an agent. Well, an agent is those people that are telling you that you can't do it. They're the ones telling you that you can't get that promotion you want, you can't start the business, you can't get out of your job. Whatever it is, you have to keep fighting those agents and not let them tell you that you can't do it.

Tip number four is to shape the world. The Matrix is a world that is pulled over your eyes to hide the truth. The truth is that you can make it anything you want it to be. So just like in the Matrix the rules can be bent or broken. Now one of my favorite quotes is from Steve Jobs, and it was a game changer for me. He said, "That once you realize that everything around you is made up by people that are no smarter than yourself, then you can change it." So go out and shape your world.

Tip number five is believe you're the one. You can't just think you're the one, you have to know you're the one. I can show you the door, but you have to walk through it. You have to be willing to hack your freedom. The Matrix doesn't define Neo, and this world doesn't define you. Whatever happened in your past doesn't define who you are today. Don't let it hold you back. Go out and get the things you want, hack your freedom, and be the one. 

I'm going to include a link in the description below to my Facebook group called the Hero Mastermind. It's a great place for you to go and connect with other people that are on their journey to be the one. 

A world where anything is possible. 

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Top 10 Live Instagram August 2017

Alright, so last month I went live every single day on Instagram. This week I'm gonna be bringing you my top 10 tips. Plus, stick around til the end for a special announcement. 

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Alright, so tip number one is Long Term Thinking. Don't give in to instant gratification and choose pleasure now, over the pleasure you'll achieve when you reach your long term goals.

Tip number two is to Make Every Minute Count. You want to live deliberately, and you want to choose to be completely in the moment and either focus on work, or focus on pleasure, or whatever it is you're doing at the time, but make every minute count.

Tip number three is 10x Goal Setting. This is something I learned from listening to Peter Diamandis. For instance, my Twitter goal for 90 days was 500 followers. I multiplied that times 10, so I had to really get creative and within two weeks I had over 500 followers. This is a great way to really step up your goals and make you think outside the box.

Tip number four is to Do Your Thing. Life is too short to worry about what other people think. You have to figure out how to be you and do your thing and make the most of your life.

Alright, so tip number five is to Attack Your Problems. One day I was listening to Dean Graziosi talk about leaning into your problems, and it reminded me of when I was kayaking the Grand Canyon. I learned to lean into the waves and attack the waves with my paddle. It kept me from getting flipped by the waves. It's kind of the same thing when you have problems in life. You don't want to lean away from your problems. You don't want to escape into a book, or movies, or games, or whatever it is you like to do for fun. You have to stay in reality, and you have to attack those problems and take care of them.

Tip number six is Return On Time. If you've ever heard of the Pareto principle, it says that 20% of the things you're doing are accounting for 80% of your results. You need to figure out what that 20 % is and focus your time there so you get the most return on your time investment.

Tip number seven is the Power Of Decisions. The decisions you make and actions you take, shape your life. You need to learn to make good decisions to get the results you want.

Tip number eight is Dealing With Trolls. Whether you're online or offline, you're gonna come across people who are just gonna try and get a reaction out of you. You have to just ignore them, ban them, mute them, do whatever you got to do to get them out of your life. Don't feed the trolls. This is my Easter egg for this week. For my fantasy followers, comment below and tell me how you keep trolls from regenerating?

Tip number nine is the Power Of Focus. Focus on what you can control, and let the rest go. You can consider all the outcomes, but the thing is, you don't want to be emotional about things that haven't happened yet. Just focus on what you can control.

Tip number ten is to Be A Hero. Both at work and at home those people are depending on you to protect them and take care of them, so be the hero that they need.

Alright, so that was my top ten tips from going live on Instagram last month. This month I'm gonna be going live on Facebook every single day. Check out the link in the description below, and you can follow me there and see what's going on in my life and hopefully get some more awesome tips like the ones you learned today.

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Manage Your Time - Tips for Time Management

So you always hear people say that time is more valuable than money, yet as a society, we budget our money, we save our money, we invest our money, we put our money into savings accounts. We get financial advisors, so there's a whole series of businesses, industries, careers all built around money, yet not time, but time's more valuable than money, right?

Thinking about this, I thought about, well, what if we could budget time? So that's what I'm going to be talking about this week is how to budget your time. Make sure you stick around to the end for a special bonus.

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Tip number one is to track your time. We all have the same 24 hours in the day, and you have to figure out where your 24 hours is going, so the first tip is track your time. Just start writing down everything you do for about a week, that way you kind of get your work week built in, get your weekend built in. If you got some special stuff going on, you may want to go a little longer than a week, and then kind of start to figure out where your time is going.

Tip number two is to categorize your time. Now that you have a week of time to work with, we need to figure out where to put that time into different buckets. What I'm going to recommend is something based on the 50-20-30 method of budgeting your money, and it actually is 50% is fixed, and 20% is investment, and 30% is your personal money. Well, we're going to do it a little different, because if you do the math, your fixed, you have a job possibly, so eight hours a day. You have sleeping, hopefully seven to eight hours a day, so right there, you're already at about 60% of your time is invested just in fixed cost, your work, and your sleep.

We're going to try something a little different. We're going to do 60% for fixed, 15% for investing, or your future, your goals, that type of thing, and 25% for your personal time. So let's break down that 60-15-25. What does that look like in hours? Well, the 60% is your fixed, and that's about 100 hours a week, so that's pretty good. That's going to work, and sleeping, about 100 hours a week, so that leaves 68 hours that week.

The 25% that's your personal time is actually going to work out to about 40 hours a week, so that's pretty good. You can put quite a few things into 40 hours a week, things you need to take care of for yourself, whether it be watching Game of Thrones or reading a book, or whatever it is. You got 40 hours a week to do that.

The 15% you're investing, that's about 25 hours a week. I'm having to look down at my notes, so you got about 25 hours a week to invest in your future, in your goals, so that's actually quite a bit. One thing is, you can play with it. So what is investing for you? It could be reading, it could be going to the gym, it could be actually doing things that are making money, things that are actually putting time into your business making money, whatever that business is.

You get to play with these buckets. You get to decide what goes where. For one person reading, may be investing in themselves. For another, that may be personal. Depends on what you're reading, right? Depends on what your goals are. For me, say if I go on Twitter, and I'm doing things, I'm being social on Twitter. Well, I could consider that an investment in my business, 'cause I'm building my following hopefully on Twitter, or I could consider that personal, 'cause I just enjoy getting on there and socializing with people. That's the awesome thing about this. You get to decide what goes into those buckets.

Tip number three is to eliminate the time wasters. Now it's time to really take a hard look at all those things you put in those buckets and figure out. What's not moving you closer to your goals? It may be something in your personal bucket that's really not adding value to your life, maybe your time might be spent better hanging out with your family or going to visit friends, or whatever it is. You got to really figure out what it is that maybe isn't working for you. Maybe it's how you're investing your time.

Are the things you're doing really giving you a return on investment, or is this kind of a time waster? If I'm getting on Instagram and I'm posting all day, cool, but if I'm not getting followers and people aren't following through and going and checking out my videos, it's a time waster, right? I've got to figure out what's working for me and what's actually adding value and moving me closer to my goals.

Also, I want to work within my strengths. What are your strengths? What is your goal, your long-term goal? Think about that. You want to do things that are helping you move you forward. You want to do things that you enjoy and that you're good at, and if it doesn't fall into that category, then you need to figure out how you can get rid of it, whether that be a virtual assistant to do that, hiring somebody to go mowing your lawn 'cause that's not getting you any closer to what you want to do, or maybe you enjoy mowing your lawn, so that falls into your personal bucket because that's something you want to do.

You really need to take a hard look at this and just kind of eliminate those things that are kind of dabbling. They aren't really adding value, okay? Obviously, don't go too crazy. You still want to have some fun, but look for the time wasters. They're there, and like I said at the beginning, we all have the same 24 hours of the day, so you need to figure out the best way to use your 24 hours to get the best value out of your life.

Tip number four is to implement time savers. Now hopefully you've gotten rid of some of those things that are wasting your time. Now you need to figure out how to do the things that are left as efficiently as possible. I'm going to give you something called the four D's, and I actually learned this for email, and the four D's are to delete it, to delegate it, to do it, or defer it. We already kind of went through and deleted some things, right? We talked a little bit about to delegating it. If it's not something that you're really good at, if it's not something that's adding value, you can delegate it to somebody else to do.

To do it, if it takes you five minutes or less, go ahead and knock it out. Don't leave that hanging over your head, and to defer it, so if it's going to take you awhile and you need to plan something, you need to get some more information, whatever, then just defer it for later. You can use that for obviously anything in your life, not just your email, but speaking of your email, that's another place you can eliminate some wasted time.

Something I've done recently, after reading, I'm still actually reading it, The 4-Hour Workweek by Tim Ferriss, and I'll link to that book on Amazon below. I started using his method of doing my email just twice a day, so at 10:00 and 4:00 I check my email, and then other than that, I've turned off all the alerts. I don't get alerts on my phone. I don't get alerts on my computer. I can do my work without getting interference, and just twice a day I go in and batch my email. I do it all at once.

Same thing with the videos. Today I'm shooting videos. I've got to set up lights, I've got to set up my camera, got to put the mic on, put on a decent shirt, so I'm doing a batch of videos. I'm shooting several videos at once to get the most out of my time, to be efficient.

So now it's time for today's bonus, and that is to have some fun, all right? When I first started my business, I was just going, going, going, and I finally just kind of burned myself out. You don't want to do that to yourself. You want to still give yourself some time to sleep, some time to have fun, some time to hang out with your family, whatever it is you need to do to recover and bring your best self to what you're doing every day. Make sure you do that and don't burn yourself out.

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Confidence Tips - How to Gain Confidence in Yourself

Confidence is absolutely crucial to your success. Confidence gives you the ability to believe in yourself, and it gives you the ability to overcome your fears and get started, to stand up for yourself, to say no to the people and things that aren't serving your life, and yes to the things that are, so it's absolutely crucial that you have confidence. So this week I'm going to give you five tips on how to boost your confidence, and also make sure you stick around to the end. I'm going to give a bonus tip and a free tool you can use to boost your confidence every single day. I'm Roman Ryder, and on this channel I talk about strategies for leadership and personal development. I put out new videos every Friday, so make sure you subscribe so you don't miss out. Tip number one is to know your strengths. It's important that you know what you're good at and look for opportunities to use those strengths in everything you do so that you can really shine and be confident about what you're doing.

Now, if you don't know what you're good at, I've mentioned before there's a great book called StrengthsFinder 2.0, and I'll put a link for that in the description below, and it comes with a code that you enter and take a test online, and it'll help you identify your top five strengths, so that's a pretty awesome start. Also, I've got another free tool if you go, once again, the description below. I'll give you a link to my Find Your Why. It's a free 15-minute video course, and it actually comes with a worksheet that you can download and kind of work through brainstorming what you're good at, what are your skills and talents, what are you passionate about, because that'll really help you hone in on what you're good at and where you need to be focusing your strengths.

All right, so tip number two is to remember your wins. You want to surround yourself with things that make you feel confident, so that not only goes for work. It also goes for play, so at work, you can write down the things you accomplished. Maybe you finished a cool project. Maybe you got a new idea passed through and made a big change for your workplace. Anything you do, you want to write it down, and then you can bring those things back up to help you in your performance review, to help you shape out your résumé for future opportunities, and also, like I said, you want to remember things outside of work, too. Like I've got pictures in my office of me kayaking, and those things instantly bring me back to a place of confidence, because I had to overcome fears to do those things. So maybe you did a marathon. You can have your medal up in your office. Maybe you did a ropes course on vacation. Did you get a picture? Put that up in your office. Just keep yourself surrounded with things that make you feel strong and confident.

Tip number three is practice, practice, practice. I had to do a big presentation in front of a conference full of people. There were hundreds of people, including VPs from my company, there, and I practiced that presentation over, and over, and over again, because it was a TED-style presentation, if you're familiar with that. So it was basically 15 minutes with 11 slides, pretty much just pictures, so when I got up there, I had to know exactly what I was going to say, and I pretty much, even though I was nervous when I started out, I went into autopilot because I practiced so much that I knew exactly what I was going to do, and it went smooth as can be. So if you practice enough, you'll have confidence just knowing that you're super prepared for what it is you're about to do.

Tip number four is the strike a pose. So they have proven in multiple studies now that by striking power poses, you actually raise your testosterone level, in both men and women, and instantly feel more confident. So what's a power pose? Well, think of it like making yourself big, so it might be the kind of, the Wonder Woman pose, if you're familiar with that, with the hands on the hips, or a V, like you see somebody crossing the finish line of a big race, so these things where you're getting yourself big and posing and getting wide, it just makes you feel more confident. I feel more confident already, right? Just kidding, but have fun with it. Take a minute to kind of get yourself prepared. If you're walking into a big interview, maybe get off to where nobody can see you, and kind of pose and fire yourself up and get ready to go in there and show them who you are and what you're about.

All right, so tip number five is to model a real or fictional character that you admire, so maybe you really look up to Steve Jobs, and you're in a high-pressure situation and think, "Hey, what would Steve Jobs do in this situation?" Or maybe you're a fan of Batman, like myself, and you're not feeling really confident, but you're like, "Hey, I can be like Batman. What would Batman do in this situation? Or what would Bruce Wayne, the billionaire, do in this situation?" So by modeling how they would react in that situation you're in, you take a more confident role by just modeling the behaviors of somebody you look up to.

All right, so now it's time for this week's bonus, and that is positive reinforcement. Every day, I start my day by looking in the mirror, and I have posted there of what I call The Fearless Manifesto, and it's a series of positive statements that I read out loud both at morning and at night, and it kind of instantly puts me in a little more positive mood and kind of gives me a more confident approach to my day. And I've also taken that and broken it down into alarms that I put in my smartphone, so throughout the day, I'm getting these little reminders to kind of keep me on track and keep me confident and being my best self. I'm going to put a link in the description below, and you can actually go to my website and download that for free, so a very cool little bonus for you there. If you like this video, hit the like button below, share with your friends, and be sure to subscribe. Thanks for watching, and I'll see you in the next video.
 

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Fight Fear - How to Conquer Your Fears

Fear is the number one reason people fail to take action and achieve their dreams. This week I'm going to give you four tips on how to conquer your fears and be an action hero. 

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Tip number one is to Identify It. It's not enough to know that you're afraid. You really need to dig deep and figure out exactly what it is you're afraid of because until you know exactly what that thing is that's making you afraid, you can't really do anything about it and address it to overcome that fear. 

They say that nearly one in three Americans has a fear of flying. They're either anxious to fly or afraid to fly, but if you dig deep and you find out why those people are actually afraid to fly you'll find it's quite a few different reasons. For instance, mechanical problems during flight, a flight during bad weather, flying at night, or flying over a body of water. That's what it means to really dig deep and figure out exactly what it is that you're afraid of. 

Alright. Tip number two is to Eliminate It. If we take a look at the previous example about a fear of flying, one of the reasons people are afraid to fly is flying at night so, a way to eliminate that would be to schedule their flight first thing in the morning. That way even if their flight's delayed they're still going to be flying during the day and they've eliminated that thing that's causing their fear. 

Tip number three is to Mitigate It. When I was kayaking the Grand Canyon I had to run a rapid called Lava Falls, which is the biggest rapid in the Grand Canyon. It's the one that has everybody nervous the whole time going up to it. To mitigate that, I had really great training before I went there. Also, I had really great safety gear. I had a good helmet. I had a good life jacket. We put safety in place. I had friends waiting downstream waiting on me in case something happened. They were there to keep me safe. By doing that, I was able to mitigate the risk and overcome my fears and take action because the things we regret are the things we don't do and if I hadn't run that rapid, I would've really regretted it. 

Tip number four is to Conquer It. Let's take this back to the workplace. If you've ever heard of impostor syndrome, I suffered from that greatly. I went from being hourly to a supervisor to a superintendent in less than a year and I went from supervising three people to managing three dozen people from a tiny little power plant to a huge power plant so, obviously, you can have impostor syndrome in a case like that. But, it ended up being an awesome experience and I had a lot of success in that position and if I hadn't pushed past my fears and taken that opportunity I would have missed out. 

Alright. Now, it's time for today's Bonus tip and that is if your why is bigger than your fear it's easy to conquer those fears and take action. If you look in the description below I have a link to my website for a free video course that will walk you through how to find your WHY. It also includes a free worksheet you can download. Make sure you check that out. 

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What to Do When You Feel Hopeless

One of the hardest things in life is when you feel like it's hopeless. When something has happened or you did something or said something and you don't feel like there's any way to come back from it. Let me tell you that you can come back. It's going to be ok. Today I'm going to give you a few tools you can use when you reach those hard times in life and don't see a way out.

1. Will this really matter in 5 years?

Ask yourself will this really matter in 5 years or 10 years? No matter how hard it seems, if you ask yourself if it will matter in 5 or 10 years, it will look a lot better. I've been through some tough things. I said, "Will it really matter in 5 years? No...not really. It kinda sucks right now, but in 5 years I'll be ok. It won't be a big deal. It will be a thing of the past and I won't even think about it."

2. Focus on what you can control.

The second tool is to focus on what you can control. Forget about the things that are out of your control. They just going to be something to worry about. Don't worry about them. Focus on what you can control and start moving forward. Start from where you're at today and find your way out.

3. Never ever give up!

The third tool is to never ever give up! Some of the toughest things I've been through in life were followed by some of the best things I've been through in life. If I had given up, I would have never gotten to experience those great things. Never ever give up!

Sometimes life is like a blacksmith and I'm the metal. He's hammering on me and heating me up in the forge. He's beating me into a tool. He's beating me into the weapon that I need to be. He's making me stronger. It's not easy. It hurts sometimes, but life is trying to make you stronger. Like Tony Robbins says, "Life doesn't happen to you, it happens for you".

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How to Get Through Hard Times

It's important to have a work-life balance and today it was time for me to get out and go kayaking. Today I'm going to discuss a couple of subjects.

My friends used to pick on me a lot because I jumped from hobby to hobby. They said I'd master something and then I'd move on. Then I found whitewater kayaking about 10 years ago and I stuck with it.

I think the reason is that it became who was and not something I did. Kayaking has brought me all over the country and I've had some amazing adventures, but I've had a lot of hard times along the way. The first day I went whitewater kayaking, I flipped and swam six times. It was a freezing cold day in a cold Arkansas river, but I kept going. I've also had some scary swims. I swam once in the Grand Canyon through massive waves. It hard to even find a place to get a breath, but I kept going because kayaking is who I am, it's not something I just do.

I think it's important to find those things in life that are who you are. Then it's easier not to quit on yourself, to keep going and pursue your dreams, and push through the hard times.

The other thing obviously is work-life balance. I've got a job other than my business and have been working hard. Also, my wife is having some health issues, so I've been doing more around the house. Then I'm also trying to get my business going. Today I just really needed to get outside and get to one of my favorite places. I've been over there surfing on a wave for hours and it has been very relaxing and very therapeutic.

In summary, figure out the things that are who you are, not just things you do and that will help you to stick with them. Also, make sure you take the time to get outside and play a little bit. Find your work-life balance. It will help you in the long run. You'll have more energy and the ability to pursue your goals and push through the hard times.

https://youtu.be/-pIpZQk17R0

The Power of Focus

The sun is powerful and spreads its' power across our planet. If you take a magnifying glass and focus the sun's light, you can burn stuff. You need to take your power and focus it down to a hot source that can get things done.

This week was a struggle for me. I know I need to get my video out, but at the same time, I'm tired and could just as easily be sitting on the couch. However, I'm focused. I know what I want and why I want it. I want to be here to help you, so I know I need to get this done.

So how do we get you focused? First, we need to figure out what you want and more importantly, figure out why you want it. Then the tricky part is keeping you on track. For that, I'm going to give you the most important question I know, "Will this get me closer to my goal or dream?".

When I have decisions to make, I have to ask myself "Will this get me closer to my goal?". Will watching a movie get me closer to my goal or will making a video get me closer to my goal? Will eating a donut get me closer to my weight loss goal or will jumping on a spin bike and riding 10 minutes get me closer to my weight loss goal?

You have to figure out what you want and why you want it and then figure out if what you're about to do will get you closer that goal or move you further away. This one question can be used to change any aspect of your life and create an alternate future.

https://youtu.be/sr6FiYjOOl0

Kind Acts - How to Be Kind to Others

Today I want to talk to you about gambling and it's not what you're thinking. It's the gamble you take when you're kind to other people. The thing is that when you're kind to other people, you can't lose.  You're going to win. I live near a casino. I recently saw a shirt that said, "It's only a gambling problem if you're losing". I'm going to tell you how to win today.

The first thing you need to do is smile. Any time you see someone, smile. If they don't smile back, that's their problem. Share a smile. Smiling releases endorphins. It's going to make you feel better. It's going to reduce stress. It's a gamble you're going to win.

The second thing is to do something kind and unexpected for someone. This can be something as simple as tipping your waiter a little something extra, telling their manager what a great job they did, paying someone else's parking meter, paying for the person behind you in the movie line, or letting someone merge into traffic. There are opportunities all day, every day for you to go out and do something kind.

There's also chemistry behind being kind. Every time you're kind to someone, you're going to get oxytocin. Oxytocin lowers your blood pressure. You're also going to get a dose of dopamine. Dopamine makes you feel better. When you smile and be kind, you're getting a neurochemical mix of endorphins, oxytocin, and dopamine.

It's going to make you feel better all day. You're going to be more productive. You're going to make the world a better place. Plus, it's contagious. When you're kind to someone, they may turn around and be kind to someone else. Sometimes you may run across a negative person that doesn't care. That's their problem. Share your smile and be kind to them. Maybe it will rub off on them.

Either way, you're taking the high road. You're putting out your positive vibes. You're sharing your love with the world. It's going to be a great thing!

https://youtu.be/iNdvnRgG0y0

In the Flow - How to Be in the Moment

In the book "The Rise of Superman" author Steven Kotler talks about the Flow. The Flow is the optimal state where you feel your best and perform your best. He was looking at the experiences of extreme athletes when he wrote this book. I'm a whitewater kayaker, so I've actually been able to experience this feeling. The Grand Canyon has some of the biggest rapids on the continent. You have massive waves coming at you from every direction and it's a very scary and chaotic environment. After about a week, everything suddenly slowed down. I could see the wave coming at me from a mile away and it was like everything was in slow motion. I would act without even thinking. I think that's what he was talking about when he discussed being in the flow.

This isn't a new concept. Over 2500 years ago, Lao Tzu wrote in the "Tao Te Ching" about something very similar. He wrote that "The Master gives himself up to whatever the moment brings...He doesn't think about his actions; They flow from the core of his being." Basically, that's being in the Flow and completely in the moment.  So how can you apply this to your life?

When I was in the Canyon, I had to keep telling myself "I'm where I'm supposed to be and doing what I'm supposed to be doing". Each day I had to overcome my fears and take action or I'd miss out on the experience of paddling the Canyon. Each day you have to decide to overcome your fears and take action to move towards reaching your goals. You have to make a choice. You have to choose to be happy today. You can't put off your happiness till tomorrow, or next week, or when you get a promotion. You have to choose to be happy today.

You can choose to look at the positive side of things. You can choose to be around the positive people that make you happy. You can choose to do work that you find meaningful and that brings joy to your life. Every day you make all of these choices that allow you to be happy today and not put it off until tomorrow. There's no guarantee of tomorrow. All we have is today. We have this 24 hours and we have to choose to enjoy it and to be in the moment.

https://youtu.be/eel9Z5hvq4Q

5 Daily Habits for Success

Why do you need daily habits? If you don't do something each day to work towards your goals, a week or month can fly by and you haven't made any progress.

1. Exercise
Why exercise? If you get up early in the morning and you have a great workout, you're going to have more energy and more drive to work towards your goals and become more successful. Also, there's a mental toughness factor. I was backpacking in the Sierras and I was having some issues. I had to tell myself to just keep going and keep putting one foot in front of the other. When you push yourself out of your comfort zone physically, it also applies mentally. You build up mental toughness to help you get through the tough times. When you're working towards success, it's not always going to be great. There's going to be some tough times and you're going to have to be mentally tough to get to the other side and be successful.

2. Focus
You have to know where you want to go to be successful. I'm a whitewater kayak instructor. When my students are scared and see I rock. I tell them not to look at the rock. If you look at the rock, you're going to go towards it and you're going to hit it. You have to look at where you want to go. The same thing applies in life. You have to figure out what you want and where you want to go. Because what you focus on is what you get in life.

3. Learn
You have to learn each day. You're at a place in life and there's a place you want to get to be successful. You have to figure out how to bridge that gap. What skills and strategies do you need to become that person and to be successful? Then you have to go out and find the books you need to learn about it. If you don't like reading books, there's some great audio CD's and some great training online. You have to get out there and learn to become the person you want to be.

4. Journal
Why journal? You're reading this books and listening to these CD's. You don't want to have to do it again. If something hits you and you like it, write it down in your journal. Also, if something doesn't go well, write that down in your journal as well. Then look back it and figure out what you can do better next time. Learn from it, so you don't have to repeat your history.

5. Serve
You're not here for yourself. You're here to make an impact on the world, to leave a legacy, and to help others. Every day you should be out there looking to see how you can help someone else. If you want to be super successful, you have to figure out how to help more people. If you can figure out a way to solve a big problem for a lot of people, you're going to be super successful.

https://youtu.be/YAiBefROFwQ